So I’ve recently finished reading Daring Greatly by Brené Brown and it was very eye opening. I could relate to many of the topics discussed in the book, but they were feelings that I could finally put a name too and identify.
For anyone interested in reading this book, I highly recommend it. It’s not really for kids, due to some mature matters in my opinion. But anyone that is a young adult or older could greatly benefit from reading this book. It’s also one of those books that you can read at different stages of your life and take something different out of it every time. If you read this book, and you think the concept is stupid or doesn’t relate to you, you may need to read this book more than anyone else. Seriously, it can do no harm.
For instance, this book discusses shame, and how we need to practice shame resilient strategies in order to overcome it’s sometimes crippling effects. I struggle a lot with shame, and I’ve been able to identify many issues that I’m dealing with in a not so perfect way. Now, I hope to start correcting my habits that go against my values. Shame can affect you at home, at work, in public, with friends, etc. It’s easy to be sucked into a shame driven mindset, but there are ways to get out of it.
What I took away from this book is that I need to really assess the way I take day to day situations and how I react to them. Why do I feel discomfort towards certain situations and how can build the courage I need to stand up and say or do something? I also took away that I am enough, and that I am worthy of many things.
Another main aspect of the book was vulnerability. Daring to be vulnerable, by exposing your ideas or practicing what you value, can be challenging but in the end is always rewarding. You might not always get the results or the reactions you were hoping for, but you put yourself out there and that’s half the battle.
This book made me realize that I use to embrace vulnerability and I used to take chances on whims. I swear, I used to look for excuses to be vulnerable. I had such a fierce confidence that nothing could stop me. As I grow older, it seems that this open-armed embrace has significantly been reduced to a unwillingness to be vulnerable. Where did the daring Natalie go? The one that would get up on stage and play a few of her original songs in front of an entire audience? The one that would write a story and be willing to share it with friends in order to get some good feedback?
That’s not the way I want to live. I don’t want to shy away from exposing my ideas. I don’t want to snuff out the flame that used to burn brightly. Reading this book made me find those dying embers deep down inside and hopefully, with practice, I’ll be able to give it enough strength to ignite once again.
It doesn’t come naturally, daring greatly takes time and patience. I need to stop beating myself up, and I have to give myself permission to make mistakes. I am not able to accomplish anything if I don’t try. Making mistakes means you’re trying which is what I want to do. I’m the same person I was 10 years ago, sometimes I just need to remind myself of that, this book also helped.
I’m also really glad I read this book before I become a parent, because it gives really great perspective on parenting. What is the wrong or right way to parent? Many decisions I’ll have to make will contradict with what other people do, so I have to prepare myself for scrutinizing, but I need to stand my ground and practice what I believe in.
I can’t wait to read this book again in a few years.
I give it a solid 10 out of 10.